Back to: Relationship Coach Training Fall 2023 – Spring 2024
How Coach Entanglement Helps A Coach
by gary@relationshipschool.com | Dec 10, 2021
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Class Replays
- Large Group Class Call [09.26.23]
- Q&A Class Call [09.28.23]
- Large Group Class Call [10.10.23]
- Office Hours [10.12.23]
- Q&A Class Call [10.19.23]
- Live Intensive [10.24.23]
- Large Group Class Call [11.07.23]
- DEIB Q&A Class Call [11.16.23]
- Large Group Class Call [11.21.23]
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Logistics & Resources
- Calendar & Class Zoom Links
- RCT Student Master Document
- Orientation Replay
- Office Hours Sept 19th Replay
- Homework & Partner Practice Documents
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Module 1: Big Picture and Purpose of PCRC
- Welcome
- The Purpose of Relationship Coaching
- The 3-part Coaching Framework
- Big Picture PCRC Coaching Model
- PCRC Training Manual
- How to be Successful in this Course
- PCRC Manifesto
- How to be a Client
- Don’t be Attached to the Outcome With Your Clients
- Present Centered Relationship Coaching Manual
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Module 2: Principles, Goals, Confidentiality, Ethics
- Client Goal
- Coaching Principles: Life is Trustworthy
- Coaching Principles: Love
- Coaching Principles: Relationship as a Path
- Coaching Principles: Relational Leadership
- Coaching Principles: Security and Client Growth
- Coaching Principles: Law of the Farm, Trust, Direct Experience
- Coaching Principles: Behavior, Relationship Stages, Here and Now
- Setting the Coaching Container and Holding Space
- Coach Confidentiality
- Code of Ethics
- BONUS: The Primary Intention I Should Hold as a Coach
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Module 3: The Six Client Outcomes and Six Coach Practices
- Administrative
- Coach Practices: Presence
- Coach Practices: Attunement
- Coach Practices: Support
- Coach Practices: Challenge
- Coach Practices: Develop Their Story
- Coach Practices: Entanglement
- Client Outcomes: Insight
- Client Outcomes: Personal Responsibility
- Client Outcomes: Be With
- Client Outcomes: Empathy (Mindsight)
- Client Outcomes: Integration and Lessons
- Client Outcomes: Action and Accountability
- Equity Call 1
- BONUS: 3 Things That Facilitate Change – Carl Rogers
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Module 4: Your First Session and “Be with” Skills
- Jayson Reviewing Ray’s First Session
- Jayson Reviewing Melissa’s First Session
- Jayson Modeling How to Build Rapport
- Helping A Client “Be With” His Fear
- Helping A Client Get Resourced – Body
- Helping A Client Get Resourced – Visualization
- Coaching When a Clients Child is in the Room
- Lighting & Posture Over Zoom
- Populations We Are Not Qualified to Serve
- Equity Call 2
- Bonus: Jayson Modeling a First Session – Leah
- Bonus: Jayson Modeling a First Session – Warren
- Bonus: Jayson Reviewing His Coaching Session With John
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Module 5: Transmission, Motivational Interviewing & Values
- Transmission 1 – Big Picture
- Transmission 2 – Regulating Them When They Are Dysregulated
- Transmission 3 – Showing Them How To Listen And Speak Differently
- Transmission 4 – Show And Tell Them What It’s Like To Be In A Relationship With Them
- Transmission 5 – Talking About vs Talking From
- Transmission 6 – Be A Real Person By Sharing Impact
- Double Bind – Two Shitty Choices
- Motivational Interviewing
- Equity Call 3
- BONUS: Jayson Coaching Leah Helping Her Client Get to the Root Issue
- BONUS: Jayson Reviewing His Coaching Session With Greg
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Module 6: Personal Responsibility & Deflection
- Helping a Client to Own Their Part
- How to Get a Client to Talk About Self
- Working with Deflection in Your Clients
- How to Connect to Self Before, During, & After Sessions
- BONUS: Challenging a Dad Who Has a lot of Fantasies About Partnership
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Module 7: Coach Entanglement & Your Agenda
- Using Coach Entanglement
- Owning and Letting Go of Your Agenda
- How to Regulate a Client
- What to do When a Coach is Talking Too Much
- BONUS: Transparent Coaching Approach with Cheating Issue
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Module 8: More Support Than Challenge, Resistant Clients, Boundaries with Sexual Abuse
- Client Wanting More Support Than Challenge
- Working With a “Resistant” Client
- How to Set a Boundary with a Client Sharing About Sexual Abuse History
- BONUS: Coaching About a Possible Separation and Self-Connection
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Module 9: Transmission and The Here and Now
- Why Does Transmission Involve Here and Now
- 4 Types of Here and Now Experiments
- Experiments in Coaching
- Here And Now With A Client
- BONUS: What To Do With A Power Struggle With A Client In The Here And Now
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Module 10: Getting Their World, First
- Seen Before Solutions – Trying to Understand What It’s Like to Be Them
- How To Tell If You Are Misattuned To A Client And What To Do About It
- BONUS: Jayson Coaching Client Around Feeling Lost with His Compass and Purpose
- Jayson Coaching a Student – Trigger with Girlfriend
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Module 11: How To Challenge And Deepen A Client’s Decision
- Holding A Boundary
- When Your Client Says “I don’t want to upset the other person”
- How To Challenge And Deepen Someone’s Decision
- Distrust And Deception In A Partnership
- BONUS: Identifying Self-Betrayal, Commitment Issues, & Being a People Pleaser
- Jayson Coaching a Student – Setting Boundaries with Daughter
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Module 12: Eye Contact, Feelings, Blankness, Pacing
- Being With – Grief, Feeling, And The Importance Of Eye Contact
- Coach Going “Blank” In A Session
- Pacing In Coaching
- What To Do When A Client Asks For Advice
- BONUS: Jayson Coaching Ciara
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Module 13: Reframing The Past
- Memory Tracing 180 Exercise
- Transitioning A Client To A 180
- 180 with Jill – Conflict Avoidant Pattern
- Language Matters – Qualifiers
- BONUS: Jayson Coaching Client Using 180 About Single Incident From the Past
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Module 14: Emotions And The 180
- Emotions And Coaching
- When A Client Is Emotional And Shuts Down
- Client Feeling Demo – Jayson & Arif
- When to support and NOT challenge (Trauma)
- BONUS: 180 With Abby – Self-Judgment And Self-Worth
- BONUS: 180 With Shannon – Not Feeling Chosen
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Module 15: Ending Coaching
- Meeting A Client Where They Are
- Confronting People’s Fantasies About Relationships
- Ending Your Coaching And Final Session
- BONUS: Helping A Client Get In Touch With His Heart And Chose His Self-Protection
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Module 16: Self Acceptance, Self Worth, Integrating Power
- When A Client Is In Heavy Dysregulated Emotion
- Self Acceptance vs Self Mastery
- Helping A Client Integrate Their New Found Heart And Power: Connection To Self
- Don’t Let Your Clients Off The Hook
- Self-Sabotaging Your Coaching Practice at the End of the Course
- BONUS: Difficult Conversations, Ownership And Clarity
- BONUS: Coaching A Client On Self Worth Using 180
- BONUS: Fun Experiments around your Clients Messiness and Imperfections
- Jayson Coaching a Student on Standing Up to her Mother
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Module 17: Conflict & Sexual Attraction With Clients
- Opportunities To “Teach” In A Session
- When “Nothing Is Happening” During A Session
- Conflict With A Client
- When A Client Is Attracted To The Coach
- BONUS: Jayson Helping a Client Repair and Address a Deeper Issue